There's No Good Way To Say This...

... so I didn't ... because men are cowards :

Dancer : whats going on with stephan? Dancer : hes not answering any messages Dancer : we were suppose to see each other on sat and he never called or answered and he still isnt Mathieu : well, he's been pretty depressed lately Mathieu : couldn't get him out of his flat on sunday Mathieu : which medium you using? Mathieu : IM, phone, SMS, email? Dancer : all, everything! Dancer : i tries msn, sms, phone, internet... Mathieu : hummm Mathieu : give him a few days, then Mathieu : he must know you're trying to reach him, but he's really down Dancer : i guess Mathieu : have you heard of the Cave Theory of male mgt? Dancer : no Mathieu : it states that men need to retreat to a little cave and be left alone with no talking or verbalizing for a while, every so often Dancer : oh yeah, hearde of that Mathieu : this is linked to actual scientific evidence of a difference in the way our brains function Dancer : i read that Mathieu : female brains activate both the emotional centers of the reptilian brain AND the higher, linguistic functions of the cortex when they deal with emotions Mathieu : male brains only the reptilian part Mathieu : hence they are less inclined to analyze or talk about their emotions than women Mathieu : he's been hurt badly, he needs to live with his reptilian brain for a while Mathieu : do male bonding stuff like sports, drinking... Dancer : its def not still about C, but he needs to get out, its not gonna do any good. but ill leave him alone, ill stop trying to reach him Mathieu : at least a couple days, yes Mathieu : he knows you were trying to reach him Mathieu : I'm sure he'll call you when he comes out of the cave

The deception works only because Dancer, altho she expresses an interest in Stephan and his well-being, has still not bookmarked his blog, and thus has no way to know what he did this weekend. I'd be even more surprised if she read this. Should I turn out to be wrong, Dancer, know that he should be calling you soon. UPDATE : Dancer has read his blog, and this post. I understand they've talked, but Stephan isn't out of the cave yet... and the only heart-to-heart he's going to have is with his blog. Not fair, certainly, but those are the breaks.